Thursday, July 4, 2019

417 + 313 Week

What a big week we had!  The kids turned eight and six on Tuesday!  They were so completely excited, it is silly.  We had their birthday party on Sunday at Flip Out in Nowra, and they had so much fun.  Three friends couldn't make it, and one actually arrived sick and had to leave, so in the end there were nine kids in all, and their parents.  Of course I had catered for an army, and the kids ate so much more junk food than is good for them.  Luckily they burned off a lot of energy trampolining, and there were no meltdowns!  We thought Arley would lose the plot at some point because of all of the excitement, but he held it together until dinner that night.  We were ready for monster Arley to come out after such a big day, but he wasn't so bad, considering.  

The very next morning the kids had horse riding, which is like a magic pill to get him back on track.  They did so well at that lesson.  Arley's trotting has gotten so good, and Carmie cantered two lengths around the arena, and then went on to canter 20m circles without holding the saddle handle (so hands just holding the reigns).  It was so cool to see, and she was so stoked with herself.

Directly after horse riding we met up with our homeschool friends at Mollymook park.  Carmie and Arley played with Winter and Yenje, and the four of them got along so well.  That's about as big a group as they can handle it seems, and it was so nice to see all of the kids including each other and playing so well together.  It turned into a three and a half hour play, and then I had to take the kids straight to drama class, so it was another huge day.

And then Tuesday was their birthday.  I can't believe they are eight and six.  It just seems so much older than seven and five!  Jeffrey had to work until the early afternoon, so I let the kids choose what they wanted to do to fill in the time.  They chose to get ice creams in Milton and then to go play croquet at the horse park.  It was a really good day, and time passed quickly.  Arley was desperate to open his presents first thing in the morning, but luckily he was too preoccupied with his day to continue begging me.  After Jeffrey got home, Lolo and Dida came over and the kids got to open their presents.  They were both really happy with their loot and made out like bandits.  That night we watched Spiderman 2 at the kids' request, to wrap up the end of their birthday.  Carmie kept saying what a great day it had been :)

Arley was a little off on Wednesday morning - the comedown after three days of excitement and junk food.  We went to the oval to try their new stomp rockets (success!) and to play their new Bocci Ball set.  While Carmie and I thought it was so much fun, Arley got frustrated easily and was being rather oppositional.  Luckily that afternoon the kids had another horse riding lesson, which got Arley right back on track.  I wish the kids could start out with horse riding every morning, because I know we would be set up for a smooth day every day :)

Today was cold and rainy, so I took the kids into town to the bookstore to spend their gift certificates. They had a playdate with their friend Dusty this afternoon, to make up for Dusty missing their party.  The playdate went very smoothly for the most part, until Arley didn't get his way, but he soon got over it and he and Dusty were laughing up a storm.  

I am hoping to calm things down a lot in the next week.  Birthday excitement is over, and I'd like Arley to have a smooth week.  Carmie was very emotional at dinner tonight, so I think some down time definitely is needed.  On a good note, Carmie did her fist load of laundry today!!

Here are a bunch more horse riding videos.  I can't help myself, especially when they are learning new skills!





Narrawallee Inlet at low tide


 Pre-party fun
 Birthday party fun








                                                
Doing Dora dance on the Xbox



 Homeschool play at Mollymook
I found this beauty in Arley's drama book!
 Arley, six years old on the dot!
 Carmie, eight years old on the dot!
 Birthday ice creams


 Too excited!





 Playing with their new stomp rocket
 Loving their new bocci ball set!


 New horse riding helmet :)




Thursday, June 27, 2019

416 + 312 Weeks

This week has been a little up and down.  On Friday we attended a winter solstice event that the kids were so excited about.  We made beautiful lanterns and the kids loved the project - in fact, they said it was their favourite craft project to date.  The solstice event was an evening gathering and spiral walk at the Aboriginal cave that we like to visit.  The kids were totally hyped up to go, but when we got there, there were too many people and I just knew that Arley wouldn't handle it well.  It was extremely dark unless you were in the cave, which was lit up beautifully by candles, and there were three fires: a social fire, a fire for the spiral, and a fire for cooking.  But all of the kids were playing out in the darkness in the bush, which seemed a little like madness to me.  Either way, Carmie and Arley weren't really included in the play.  For some reason, this always happens.  One on one, or one on two, they get along great with their friends, but where there is a bigger group of their friends, Carmie and Arley are sadly largely ignored, and they just don't know how to fit in.  Arley is younger than most of them, and Carmie is really shy when it comes to joining in their play.  It is really heartbreaking to watch.  Carmie wondered off into the bush alone with a lantern, and I found her crying in the dark because she had no one to play with.  Then Arley started getting angry at me because the kids wouldn't play with him.  He was yelling at me trying to get me to make them play with him, but I didn't want him playing hide and seek with them out in the pitch dark, because he has been playing a 'game' lately where he has been spontaneously hiding from me and being really quiet when I call him, which of course makes me panic.  And then all of the people there, the darkness, the story time - he just couldn't handle it.  We stayed a little over an hour, walked the spiral early and very quickly, and got out of there.  It is a shame, because the cave looked so beautiful, but stumbling around a bunch of strangers wasn't his thing.  He had a meltdown all the way home, and it continued once we got home.  Carmie was sad that her friends didn't play with her.  So, I guess, for us the event was a small disaster.  It makes me realise that shaking up the kids' routine and doing something in large groups just isn't for us.  

The next morning Arley was still combative, so we got the kids out to Collers Beach.  He is into smashing shells with rocks at the moment (delightful!), and a beach walk often helps to centre him and calm him down.  We spent a few hours at the beach, and it seemed to work.  Arley came home much calmer, thankfully.  It was good that we got out, because it rained solidly for almost two days after that.  This meant that horse riding was postponed until Tuesday, but it also meant that we set off for the library on Monday, which we love to do on a rainy day.  We lounge around looking at books, the kids choose about 30 books to borrow, and then we haul them to the library cafe and spend another good hour reading books over lunch.  Two ladies came over to see what the kids were reading, and one little old lady commended me on raising them right when she saw how Arley could read.  It certainly felt good to hear it.  The kids might be different from other kids, but I think they are pretty incredible.

So the kids had horse riding on Tuesday as well as today.  They are both doing so well, it's a pleasure to watch.  It's easily their favourite activity, and I don't even mind the cold when I sit outside to watch them :)

Yesterday we met up with a family at Narrawallee park so the mother could ask me about homeschooling.  Her kids were gorgeous, but I think they will be staying in school.  We did however make new friends and plan on meeting up with them again.

The kids are terribly excited about their birthday next week and their party on Sunday.  It is a constant topic of conversation and a countdown every morning.  There will be eleven kids in all at their party, and we are going to Flip Out, the trampoline place in Nowra.  I'm a little nervous because it is a large group, and Arley is going to be off the charts excited, but hoping that all of the jumping will keep everyone entertained as well as get their energy out.  Fingers crossed that we all survive Sunday :)

More videos of the kids horse riding:



Testing out their beautiful lanterns
At the winter solstice before it got hectic
Collers Beach




Thanks for the presents, Pop :)

Rainy day at the library and cafe



Little geeks :)
At Narrawallee