Oh my goodness, I just realised it is Friday night and I didn't do the blog yesterday! I had to beg Jeffrey to tell me what day it is - somehow I never know!
These weeks are just flying by! We have become really busy with activities, and with our business, and somehow the time just goes. We are finding Carmie to be asking for time alone with each parent, so this week Jeffrey took her out to Sawtell and then to the park at Sapphire Beach, while I took Arley out to a cafe and then a wonder around at Park Beach. It is much easier to divide and conquer like this (some things never change!) and Arley is able to talk to me about his anxiety. He told me he feels really scared when I'm not around. Anyway, Arley and I had a lovely lunch and play, and Jeff and Carmie came home all smiles too, so it was a good day.
I wish it was so easy when we went out as a family. Arley's anxiety always escalates, and he starts terrible fights with Carmie. We took them to the jetty at Jetty Beach, which we hadn't been to before, and Arley was stressed the whole time, and took it out on Carmie. She was walking too loudly, or moving her body funny, or making too much noise, or walking ahead instead of behind...it really could be anything, and shouting ensues. It doesn't matter who is around. It is very stressful for us all. After we walked the jetty and ignored all the drama, we continued along until we found a park, and suddenly Arley was right as rain and thankfully the kids had fun together. It made the day turn out OK.
The kids did horse riding again this week Arley was cross because she put him on a different horse - a smaller horse who he actually rode much better. He still wants the giant horse he started with, but going forward he will be on his new horse called Woody. The instructor has asked to give them separate lessons, because Arley tends to hold Carmie up with a lot of refusal, and she can work with them both much better on their own. It is going to make for very long Thursdays with hour long lessons with a half hour break in between. I think it's all worth it though. I wish we could teleport back to Milea every week, but obviously that's not going to happen!
On Wednesday we met up with the Nambucca homeschool group at a place called the V-Wall. We had been there once before, but I was still taken aback by the beauty of the area. The kids had a blast (until Carmie cut her foot on an oyster). It is awesome to see them swimming and exploring, making friends and having fun. It's what home schooling is all about for us.
Arley had a moment tonight, lots of shouting. We had our windows and sliding door open, so all of the neighbours got to hear :( For some reason he flips out when Carmie dances or moves her body in any way. And I mean flips out. I haven't heard back from the therapy team yet - I will chase them up on Monday. We really need to get some more help for him. He went to bed very remorseful, and he made a sign for his door pretty much saying that no Willbanks members are allowed in his room, only his friends. I went in anyway :)
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